Abandonment-neurotics feel perpetually excluded and unconsciously court rejection

Evidence

The abandonment-neurotic demands proofs. He is not satisfied with isolated statements. He has no confidence. Before he forms an objective relation, he exacts repeated proofs from his partner. The essence of his attitude is “not to love in order to avoid being abandoned.” The abandonment-neurotic is insatiable. That is because he claims the right to constant amends. He wants to be loved completely, absolutely and forever. — Frantz Fanon, Constance Farrington, Black skin, white masks, 282 (#expands, via linked claim)

Categorization

• XREF: connects to: Racially-inflected neurosis may stem from childhood abandonment rather than race itself; The negative-aggressive abandonment-neurotic is paralyzed by past frustrations and needs vengeance; The negative-aggressive abandonment-neurotic is egocentric, vengeful, and self-devaluing — Frantz Fanon, Constance Farrington, Black skin, white masks, 270 (+3 more)

Related

• Abandonment-neurotics exact repeated proofs before forming any objective relation (similarity 0.91)
• The abandonment-neurotic’s fear of rejection actively provokes the very rejection he dreads. (similarity 0.91)
• The abandonment-neurotic withholds love preemptively to avoid the risk of being abandoned. (similarity 0.90)
• The negative-aggressive abandonment-neurotic is paralyzed by past frustrations and needs vengeance (similarity 0.88)
• Abandonment drives a defensive refusal of love that becomes revenge (similarity 0.84)
• Abandonment neurosis rests on the tripod of anguish, aggression, and self-devaluation (similarity 0.84)
• The negative-aggressive abandonment-neurotic is egocentric, vengeful, and self-devaluing (similarity 0.82)
• Racially-inflected neurosis may stem from childhood abandonment rather than race itself (similarity 0.80)

Broader Connections

• The abandonment-neurotic’s fear of rejection actively provokes the very rejection he dreads. #corroborates (0.85)
• The abandonment-neurotic withholds love preemptively to avoid the risk of being abandoned. #expands (0.70)
• Abandonment-neurotics exact repeated proofs before forming any objective relation #expands (0.65) — Frantz Fanon, Constance Farrington, Black skin, white masks, 282
• The negative-aggressive abandonment-neurotic is paralyzed by past frustrations and needs vengeance #responds-to (0.40)
• The negative-aggressive abandonment-neurotic is egocentric, vengeful, and self-devaluing #responds-to (0.40) — Frantz Fanon, Constance Farrington, Black skin, white masks, 270