Love is the surface where domination logic punishes the lover who loves too much

Evidence

Authentic love must be founded on reciprocal recognition of two freedoms; each lover would then experience himself as himself and as the other; neither would abdicate his transcendence, they would not mutilate themselves; together they would both reveal values and ends in the world. For each of them, love would be the revelation of self through the gift of self and the enrichment of the universe. — Simone de Beauvoir, The Second Sex, 1883 (#qualifies, via linked claim)

“What I want from a woman is to give her pleasure”; the living warmth of voluptuousness would imply complicity: he accepts none whatsoever; he prefers the haughty solitude of domination. He seeks cerebral, not sensual, satisfactions in women. — Simone de Beauvoir, The Second Sex, 467 (#expands, via linked claim)

Dialogue cannot exist, however, in the absence of a profound love for the world and for people. The naming of the world, which is an act of creation and re-creation, is not possible if it is not infused with love. Love is at the same time the foundation of dialogue and dialogue itself. It is thus necessarily the task of responsible Subjects and cannot exist in a relation of domination. Domination reveals the pathology of love: sadism in the dominator and masochism in the dominated. Because love is an act of courage, not of fear, love is commitment to others. No matter where the oppressed are found, the act of love is commitment to their cause—the cause of liberation. — Paulo Freire, Pedagogy of the Oppressed, 263 (#complicates, via linked claim)

Categorization

• XREF: connects to: Dialogue requires love, which is impossible under domination — Paulo Freire, Pedagogy of the Oppressed, 263; Claiming to give pleasure while refusing to receive it masks a will to dominate — Simone de Beauvoir, The Second Sex, 467; A woman’s self-enslavement in love is itself a strategy of subjugation — Simone de Beauvoir, The Second Sex, 1872 (+4 more)

Broader Connections

• Claiming to give pleasure while refusing to receive it masks a will to dominate #expands (0.80) — Simone de Beauvoir, The Second Sex, 467
• Authentic love requires reciprocal recognition of both partners’ freedoms #qualifies (0.80) — Simone de Beauvoir, The Second Sex, 1883
• Dialogue requires love, which is impossible under domination #complicates (0.75) — Paulo Freire, Pedagogy of the Oppressed, 263
• A woman’s self-enslavement in love is itself a strategy of subjugation #complicates (0.72) — Simone de Beauvoir, The Second Sex, 1872