Claiming to give pleasure while refusing to receive it masks a will to dominate

Evidence

“What I want from a woman is to give her pleasure”; the living warmth of voluptuousness would imply complicity: he accepts none whatsoever; he prefers the haughty solitude of domination. He seeks cerebral, not sensual, satisfactions in women. — Simone de Beauvoir, The Second Sex, 467

Categorization

• SEED: An essay angle on ‘performative giverdom’ — the one-way giver of pleasure who never risks receiving, as a recognizable modern relational pathology beyond the bedroom.
• XREF: connects to: Desire’s failure to reach incarnation can flip consciousness into masochistic submission; Love is the surface where domination logic punishes the lover who loves too much; Sustaining refusal requires will, practice, and discipline

Broader Connections

• Sustaining refusal requires will, practice, and discipline #expands (0.78)