Girls choose unattainable lovers precisely because they will fail
Evidence
The taste for the impossible often leads the girl to fall in love with a man when he begins to court one of her friends, and very often she chooses a married man. She is readily fascinated by a Don Juan; she dreams of submitting and attaching herself to this seducer that no woman has ever held on to, and she kindles the hope of reforming him: but in fact, she knows she will fail in her undertaking, and this is the reason for her choice. Some girls end up forever incapable of knowing real and complete love. They will search all their lives for an ideal impossible to reach. — Simone de Beauvoir, The Second Sex, 894
Categorization
- XREF: connects to: Women can become serial lovers when initial liaisons fail to gratify; Love fails because both parties cannot escape objectifying each other. — Jean-Paul Sartre, Being and Nothingness: An Essay on…, 93; The abandonment-neurotic withholds love preemptively to avoid the risk of being abandoned. (+1 more)
Broader Connections
- Women can become serial lovers when initial liaisons fail to gratify
#expands(0.82) - Love fails because both parties cannot escape objectifying each other.
#complicates(0.78) — Jean-Paul Sartre, Being and Nothingness, 93 - The abandonment-neurotic withholds love preemptively to avoid the risk of being abandoned.
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