Love fails because both parties cannot escape objectifying each other.

Evidence

The Other’s subjectivity can become a part of my experience only in two ways—either as I know myself to be the object of it or as I look upon it as an object; but in neither case do I as subject know him as subject. The reason why I want to get hold of his subjectivity is, of course, to protect myself against the possibility of his making an object of me. The fact that both lover and beloved feel this same need accounts for the instability and ultimate failure of love. — Jean-Paul Sartre, Being and Nothingness, 93

Categorization

• XREF: Directly scaffolds Beauvoir’s treatment of love and reciprocity in The Second Sex. — connects to: Love cannot ground trust because the other’s motives stay unknowable. — Diego Gambetta, Trust - Making and Breaking Cooperative…, 1510; Love is the enterprise of pursuing an unrealizable unity with the Other; The ideal of loving unity with the Other is structurally unrealizable and breeds conflict — Jean-Paul Sartre, Being and Nothingness: An Essay on…, 941 (+4 more)

Broader Connections

• Willing to be loved alienates the lover’s freedom into the body-for-others. #expands (0.88)
• Love is not physical possession because the beloved’s consciousness always escapes us. #expands (0.85)
• Love cannot ground trust because the other’s motives stay unknowable. #expands (0.82) — Diego Gambetta, Trust - Making and Breaking Cooperative…, 1510
• The ideal of loving unity with the Other is structurally unrealizable and breeds conflict #expands (0.80) — Jean-Paul Sartre, Being and Nothingness, 941
• Physical love is neither self-justifying nor justifiable from outside #expands (0.80)
• Love is the enterprise of pursuing an unrealizable unity with the Other #expands (0.78)