Deferred mourning is stored up and complicates later griefs
Evidence
The work of mourning, if not performed when it is due, seems to be stored up for us, often for many years. It compounds and complicates our later griefs. — Hilary Mantel, A Memoir of My Former Self- A Life in…, 307
Categorization
- SEED: Angle: a long-lived character (or real unfinished grief) where a small later loss detonates grief deferred for decades — useful for character backstory and sequel narratives.
- corroborated: 2 independent passages support this claim — Hilary Mantel, A Memoir of My Former Self- A Life in…, 307
- XREF: connects to: Mourning is active work needed for healing, not passivity. — Hilary Mantel, A Memoir of My Former Self- A Life in…, 298; Grief and desire can coexist in profound moments of reflection. — Lynch, Thomas, The undertaking-life studies from the…, 441; Grief encompasses a range of complex, untidy emotions. — Lynch, Thomas, The undertaking-life studies from the…, 616 (+7 more)
Broader Connections
- Unacknowledged losses can linger until named and forgiven.
#corroborates(0.85) — Hilary Mantel, A Memoir of My Former Self- A Life in…, 940 - Grief and desire can coexist in profound moments of reflection.
#corroborates(0.55) — Lynch, Thomas, The undertaking-life studies from the…, 441 - Grief encompasses a range of complex, untidy emotions.
#expands(0.50) — Lynch, Thomas, The undertaking-life studies from the…, 616