Unacknowledged losses can linger until named and forgiven.
Evidence
It had not occurred to me that there was anything to forgive—that anything was ensouled that could grieve, that could endure through the years. But there was a hairline connection to that day in my early life, and at last I could cut the tie and it could sail free. — Hilary Mantel, A Memoir of My Former Self- A Life in…, 940
Categorization
- FICTION: The bubble-child vision and the ‘hairline connection’ cut to let it sail free is a ready-made image for rendering grief and closure in prose.
- corroborated: 2 independent passages support this claim — Hilary Mantel, A Memoir of My Former Self- A Life in…, 940
- XREF: connects to: Deferred mourning is stored up and complicates later griefs — Hilary Mantel, A Memoir of My Former Self- A Life in…, 307; Silent tragedies can be experienced yet remain unseen by others. — Crews, Harry, A childhood the biography of a place, 387; Acknowledging discomfort around death can provide solace. — Lynch, Thomas, The undertaking-life studies from the…, 14 (+5 more)
Related
- Deferred mourning is stored up and complicates later griefs (similarity 0.85)
- Writing can release grief the writer did not know existed. (similarity 0.81)
Broader Connections
- Silent tragedies can be experienced yet remain unseen by others.
#expands(0.70) — Crews, Harry, A childhood the biography of a place, 387 - Grief can drain meaning from the surrounding world while leaving inner thought intact
#expands(0.60) — Karl Ove Knausgaard, A Death in the Family, 1524 - Acknowledging discomfort around death can provide solace.
#corroborates(0.45) — Lynch, Thomas, The undertaking-life studies from the…, 14