Authentic love requires the beloved to help one go beyond infantile fantasies

Evidence

We shall see why love is beyond the reach of the Mayotte Capécias of all nations. For the beloved should not allow me to turn my infantile fantasies into reality: On the contrary, he should help me to go beyond them. The childhood of Mayotte Capécia shows us a certain number of characteristics that illustrate the line of orientation she follows as an adult. And each time there is a movement or a contact, it will have a direct relation to her goal. It would seem indeed that for her white and black represent the two poles of a world, two poles in perpetual conflict: a genuinely Manichean concept of the world; the word has been spoken, it must be remembered–white or black, that is the question. — Frantz Fanon, Constance Farrington, Black skin, white masks, 164

Categorization

• XREF: This defines the psychological mechanism the reader needs: how colonial subjects’ infantile fantasies block authentic love, connecting to the reader’s psychoanalytic investigation. — connects to: Inauthentic love lets the beloved ratify one’s infantile fantasies instead of moving beyond them; Lack of love in early childhood causes lifelong affective insecurity — Frantz Fanon, Constance Farrington, Black skin, white masks, 278; Reciprocal modern love presupposes each ego having secured a definite boundary — Georg Simmel, on individuality and social forms_…, 583 (+2 more)

Related

• Inauthentic love lets the beloved ratify one’s infantile fantasies instead of moving beyond them (similarity 0.93)
• Lack of love in early childhood causes lifelong affective insecurity (similarity 0.81)

Broader Connections

• Lack of love in early childhood causes lifelong affective insecurity #expands (0.55) — Frantz Fanon, Constance Farrington, Black skin, white masks, 278