Marriages can misplace emphasis on trivial shared intimacy and lose substance

Evidence

An estrangement is wont to set in (whether as cause or effect is hard to decide) at the moment when this feeling of uniqueness disappears from the relationship. A skepticism regarding the intrinsic value of the relationship and its value for us adheres to the very thought that in this relation, after all, one is only fulfilling a general human distiny, that one has had an experience that has occurred a thousand times before, and that, if one had not accidentally met this precise person, someone else would have acquired the same meaning for us. — Georg Simmel, on individuality and social forms_…, 398 (#expands, via linked claim)

Categorization

• XREF: connects to: Intimacy arises when a relation’s unique shared ingredients feel essential; Loss of felt uniqueness breeds estrangement in intimate relationships — Georg Simmel, on individuality and social forms_…, 398; External circumstances alone can generate genuine emotional bonds within relationships (+5 more)

Related

• Intimacy arises when a relation’s unique shared ingredients feel essential (similarity 0.91)
• Loss of felt uniqueness breeds estrangement in intimate relationships (similarity 0.89)

Broader Connections

• Loss of felt uniqueness breeds estrangement in intimate relationships #expands (0.82) — Georg Simmel, on individuality and social forms_…, 398
• External circumstances alone can generate genuine emotional bonds within relationships #complicates (0.72)