Women resist pleasure that feels inflicted or actively engineered by the man.

Evidence

“Making the other come,” says Stekel, “means dominating him; giving oneself to someone is abdicating one’s will.” Woman will accept pleasure more easily if it seems to flow naturally from man’s own pleasure, as happens in normal and successful coitus. “Women submit themselves joyously as soon as they understand that the partner does not want to subjugate them,” continues Stekel; inversely, if they feel this desire, they resist. Many shy away from being caressed by the hand because it is an instrument that does not participate in the pleasure it gives, it is activity and not flesh; and if sex itself does not come across as flesh penetrated with desire but as a cleverly used tool, woman will feel the same repulsion. — Simone de Beauvoir, The Second Sex, 988

Categorization

• XREF: Ties to the reader’s earlier curations of the law-merchant/contract papers: instrumental ‘domination’ versus organic reciprocity resonates with how agency and instrumentality operate across these readings. — connects to: Moral inhibition and early disappointment create a vicious cycle blocking female pleasure. — Simone de Beauvoir, The Second Sex, 988; Female possession of the body makes penetration feel like dispossession.; Passionate women both crave and struggle against being everything to their lover (+5 more)

Broader Connections

• Female possession of the body makes penetration feel like dispossession. #complicates (0.80)
• Moral inhibition and early disappointment create a vicious cycle blocking female pleasure. #expands (0.78) — Simone de Beauvoir, The Second Sex, 988
• Passionate women both crave and struggle against being everything to their lover #expands (0.75)