Women in love seek to be indispensable rather than merely wanted

Evidence

Many examples have already proven to us that this dream of annihilation is in fact an avid will to be. In all religions, the adoration of God is part of the devotee’s desire for his own salvation; by giving herself up entirely to the idol, the woman hopes he will give her possession both of herself and of the universe contained in him. In most cases, it is first the justification, the exaltation of her ego, she asks of her lover. Many women do not abandon themselves to love unless they are loved in return: and the love they are shown is sometimes enough to make them fall in love. The young girl has dreamed of herself as seen through the man’s eyes: it is in man’s eyes that the woman believes she has at last found herself. — Simone de Beauvoir, The Second Sex, 1849 (#expands, via linked claim)

This is not, here, a question of ambitious women having chosen personal aims and using men to reach them—as did Mme de Staël and the princesse des Ursins—but rather of women animated by a wholly subjective desire for importance, with no objective aim, trying to appropriate for themselves the transcendence of another. — Simone de Beauvoir, The Second Sex, 1823 (#corroborates, via linked claim)

Categorization

• XREF: connects to: Some women appropriate another’s transcendence rather than pursue objective aims — Simone de Beauvoir, The Second Sex, 1823; Male authority in love is satiable while female devotion is insatiable; Woman’s love-religion seeks possession while paradoxically preserving the lover’s freedom. — Simone de Beauvoir, The Second Sex, 1882 (+3 more)

Broader Connections

• Passionate women both crave and struggle against being everything to their lover #complicates (0.85)
• Some women appropriate another’s transcendence rather than pursue objective aims #corroborates (0.80) — Simone de Beauvoir, The Second Sex, 1823
• Female self-abandonment in love is actually an avid will to be #expands (0.80) — Simone de Beauvoir, The Second Sex, 1849
• Woman’s love-religion seeks possession while paradoxically preserving the lover’s freedom. #expands (0.75) — Simone de Beauvoir, The Second Sex, 1882
• Male authority in love is satiable while female devotion is insatiable #corroborates (0.72)