Vanity requires others to despise, while pride rests on self alone

Evidence

For this reason, they are of such particular service to vanity which needs others in order to despise them. This suggests the profound difference which exists between vanity and haughty pride: pride, whose self-consciousness really rests only upon itself, ordinarily disdains “adornment” in every sense of the word. — Georg Simmel, The Sociology of Georg Simmel, 8290

Categorization

• DEFINE: A crisp conceptual distinction between vanity (other-dependent) and pride (self-sufficient) that maps onto the dyad-triad division.
• XREF: Pride’s dyadic self-sufficiency vs. vanity’s need for a third party parallels Simmel’s triad: vanity is inherently social, pride hermetic. — connects to: Shame, fear, and pride all recognize the Other as an unreachable subject.