Two primitive attitudes structure all my relations with the Other.

Evidence

Just as Love finds its failure within itself and just as Desire arises from the death of Love in order to collapse in turn and give way to Love, so all the patterns of conduct toward the Other-as-object include within themselves an implicit and veiled reference to an Other-as-subject, and this reference is their death. Upon the death of a particular conduct toward the Other-as-object arises a new attitude which aims at getting hold of the Other-as-subject, and this in turn reveals its instabiliy and collapses to give way to the opposite conduct. Thus we are indefinitely referred from the Other-as-object to the Other-as-subject and vice versa. The movement is never arrested, and this movement with its abrupt reversals of direction constitutes our relation with the Other. — Jean-Paul Sartre, Being and Nothingness, 1006 (#expands, via linked claim)

This same dualism also causes sociological relationships to be determined in a twofold manner. Concord, harmony, co- efficacy, which are unquestionably held to be socializing forces, must nevertheless be interspersed with distance, competition, repulsion, in order to yield the actual configuration of society. — Georg Simmel, The Sociology of Georg Simmel, 7696 (#expands, via linked claim)

Categorization

• XREF: connects to: All interpersonal relations rest on an unstable subject-object struggle. — Jean-Paul Sartre, Being and Nothingness: An Essay on…, 92; Every attitude toward the Other fails and collapses into its opposite — Jean-Paul Sartre, Being and Nothingness: An Essay on…, 1006; Social relationships are shaped by a twofold dualism — Georg Simmel, The Sociology of Georg Simmel, 7696

Broader Connections

• Every attitude toward the Other fails and collapses into its opposite #expands (0.85) — Jean-Paul Sartre, Being and Nothingness, 1006
• Social relationships are shaped by a twofold dualism #expands (0.80) — Georg Simmel, The Sociology of Georg Simmel, 7696