Survivors secretly feel satisfaction in their own survival even while mourning.

Evidence

Recovery can seem like a betrayal. Passionately, you desire a way back to the lost object, but the only possible road, the road to life, leads away. — Hilary Mantel, A Memoir of My Former Self- A Life in…, 313 (#complicates, via linked claim)

Categorization

• XREF: connects to: People can fear happiness and retreat to familiar grief-filled places — Moustafa Bayoumi, How Does It Feel to Be a Problem? Being…, 646; Grief can make a sudden improvement in life feel frightening rather than reassuring; Anticipatory dread of loss can coexist with intense present happiness — Julien Gracq, Balcony in the Forest, 268 (+1 more)

Broader Connections

• Recovery from profound loss can feel like a betrayal #complicates (0.78) — Hilary Mantel, A Memoir of My Former Self- A Life in…, 313