Suppressed grievances for harmony’s sake poison relationships until an emotional confrontation releases them

Evidence

I tried for a long time to be understanding of his spirituality and kept my concerns to myself, but a line was reached. There was a very emotional debate; that’s when I told him how much this hurt me and that he talks a lot about divine love but behaves selfishly and heartlessly. We both cried and said some things to each other that we hadn’t dared to say before because we both always try to maintain harmony. It was exhausting, but it did us good. — Holm Gero Hümmler, Ulrike Schiesser, Fact and Prejudice, 463