Sharing daily trivia can drain substance from a marriage

Evidence

It is this nature of intimacy which so often makes it a danger to close unions between two persons, most commonly perhaps to marriage. The spouses share the indifferent “intimacies” of the day, the amiable and the unpleasant features of every hour, and the weaknesses that remain carefully hidden from all others. This easily causes them to place the accent and the substance of their relationship upon these wholly individual but objectively irrelevant matters. — Georg Simmel, The Sociology of Georg Simmel, 3806

Categorization

• SEED: A contrarian wisdom angle: the mundane intimacies meant to bind spouses instead cheapen the relation’s substance.