Real love requires fantasy, the organ of receiving, which complaints about receiving destroy.

Evidence

The reproach that someone gives one nothing is pitiful. If the relation has grown sterile, it should be broken off. But he who holds it fast and yet complains, is always devoid of the organ of receiving: fantasy. Both must give something, happiness, as precisely what is not exchangeable, not open to complaint, but such giving is inseparable from taking. All is over if what one finds for the other no longer reaches him. There is no love that is not an echo. — Theodor W. Adorno, Minima Moralia, 235

Categorization

Category: Craft and Method

• APHORISMS: There is no love that is not an echo - a timeless piece of practical wisdom transposed into critical-theory key.
• XREF: The giving/taking non-exchange in love echoes the sacrificial-exchange logic in Mauss’s The Gift, which Adorno inverts.