Masochism is an inauthentic escape from erotic conflict, not its resolution

Evidence

One must be careful to note that if for some reason the lover’s prestige is ruined, his blows and demands become odious to her: they are only worth something if they manifest the beloved’s divinity. In that case, it is intoxicatingly joyous to feel oneself the prey of a foreign freedom: for any existent the most surprising adventure is to find oneself sustained by the diverse and imperious will of another; one is tired of inhabiting the same skin all the time; blind obedience is the only chance of radical change that a human being might experience. — Simone de Beauvoir, The Second Sex, 1863 (#expands, via linked claim)

Categorization

• XREF: connects to: Masochism fails on principle because one can never apprehend one’s own objectivity — Jean-Paul Sartre, Being and Nothingness: An Essay on…, 963; Erotic pain expresses a desire for union, not passive enslavement — Simone de Beauvoir, The Second Sex, 1005; Masochistic submission depends on the lover’s maintained prestige — Simone de Beauvoir, The Second Sex, 1863 (+1 more)

Broader Connections

• Masochistic submission depends on the lover’s maintained prestige #expands (0.85) — Simone de Beauvoir, The Second Sex, 1863
• Sadism is an illusory attempt to capture freedom through flesh #expands (0.78)