Male and female students’ sexual anxieties show near-zero overlap

Evidence

What do you notice about the two lists? Well, women and men have some common anxieties: shyness, pregnancy, and sexually transmitted diseases. But basically, they look like people with very different orientations. (Another breakthrough!) Want to know how many men said they were afraid of being seen naked? Zero. Want to know how many women worried about being able to satisfy their partner? One. How many guys do you think wrote, “Those darn women, all they want is a quick roll in the hay, and then you never see them again”? (Actually, two lodged such complaints, but only two.) How many women do you think objected to having to take almost all of the sexual initiatives? Zero. How many men worried about being pressured to “come across” after a date, or being raped? Zero. How many women complained about guys expecting an emotional commitment “just because we had sex”? Ditto. — Bob Altemeyer, The Authoritarian Specter, 2382