First coitus is structurally a violation regardless of the man’s intent.
Evidence
In any case, however deferential and courteous a man might be, the first penetration is always a rape. While she desires caresses on her lips and breasts and perhaps yearns for a familiar or anticipated orgasm, here is a male sex organ tearing the young girl and introducing itself into regions where it was not invited. The painful surprise of a swooning virgin—who thinks she has finally reached the accomplishment of her voluptuous dreams and who feels in the secret of her sex an unexpected pain—in a husband’s or lover’s arms has often been described; the dreams faint away, the excitement dissipates, and love takes on the appearance of a surgical operation. — Simone de Beauvoir, The Second Sex, 968
Categorization
- DEFINE: Beauvoir redefines ‘rape’ not by consent or violence but structurally — as penetration into uninvited regions — a categorical move central to her whole account.
- DEEPTHINKING: The redefinition of first penetration as ‘always a rape’ regardless of the man’s courtesy is a paradigm-shifting analytic move, not a well-argued point.
- XREF: connects to: The Other’s body is given as his facticity regardless of presence or absence. — Jean-Paul Sartre, Being and Nothingness: An Essay on…, 894
Broader Connections
- The Other’s body is given as his facticity regardless of presence or absence.
#complicates(0.75) — Jean-Paul Sartre, Being and Nothingness, 894