Family pride in a returning soldier foreclosed the chance to share deployment news.

Evidence

That December, Sami went home to Brooklyn for Christmas. Walking into his parents’ brownstone in Park Slope, he saw the huge banner they’d hung on the door for their war-hero son. He became like a toy for his younger brother to show off. His father had newfound respect for his first son. His mother was beside herself with joy that he was home. And that was why he couldn’t find a way to tell her about the rumors that were swirling around. They were going back. After his return to California, in January 2004, he learned that the company was returning to Iraq in February. — Moustafa Bayoumi, How Does It Feel to Be a Problem? Being…, 257