Civility demands that the dominated feel grateful for their own subordination.

Evidence

The social commitments of civility thus become the evasion – indeed, the refusal – of civil equality and social justice. For which the dominated are supposed then to be grateful. — David Theo Goldberg, The Threat of Race, 249

Categorization

• CANDY: The About Schmidt example plus the dinner-call donation guilt is a vivid, tweetable illustration of privatized charity masking state failure.
• XREF: connects to: The dominated reenact past injustice upon themselves to make it bearable; Envy inherently acknowledges the envied group’s good qualities as a source of distress. — Susan T. Fiske et al., A Model of (Often Mixed) Stereotype…, 277; The civilizing mission frames privileged imposition on the ruled as an honorable burden. — David Theo Goldberg, The Threat of Race: Reflections on…, 248