Being loved transforms one’s facticity from contingent to justified

Evidence

Thus my facticity is saved. It is no longer this unthinkable and insurmountable given which I am fleeing; it is that for which the Other freely makes himself exist; it is as an end which he has given to himself. I have infected him with my facticity, but as it is in the form of freedom that he has been infected with it, he refers it back to me as a facticity taken up and consented to. He is the foundation of it in order that it may be his end. … Whereas before being loved we were uneasy about that unjustified, unjustifiable protuberance which was our existence, whereas we felt ourselves “de trop,” we now feel that our existence is taken up and willed even in its tiniest details by an absolute freedom which at the same time our existence conditions and which we ourselves will with our freedom. This is the basis for the joy of love when there is joy: we feel that our existence is justified. — Jean-Paul Sartre, Being and Nothingness, 949

Categorization

• XREF: Directly the backdrop Beauvoir engages in The Second Sex — the gendered division where woman is ‘the Other’ who justifies man’s existence. Also recalls the ‘de trop’ nausea of Roquentin in Nausea. — connects to: Being loved gives a woman justification for self-cherishing through the lover’s witness — Simone de Beauvoir, The Second Sex, 1851; Being loved means becoming the ground on which the world appears for the Other; The other’s love reveals the self by exposing its own otherness — Simone de Beauvoir, The Second Sex, 1884 (+1 more)
• DEEPTHINKING: The mechanism — love lets the Other freely take up my facticity as their chosen end, converting unjustifiable existence into justified existence — is dense and central to the whole project.
• DEFINE: Clarifies the casual sense in which love ‘saves’ facticity by having the beloved make it the end of their freedom.

Broader Connections

• Being loved gives a woman justification for self-cherishing through the lover’s witness #corroborates (0.92) — Simone de Beauvoir, The Second Sex, 1851
• Being loved means becoming the ground on which the world appears for the Other #expands (0.80)
• The other’s love reveals the self by exposing its own otherness #expands (0.78) — Simone de Beauvoir, The Second Sex, 1884